Was your child smart, happy, and fun before his or her school career started?
Were they excited for school to begin? Did you think your child would easily accomplish Kindergarten because of their unique and creative talents? Maybe they even did as expected in pre-school; maybe they had extra energy and a wild imagination.
So you had some concerns with following directions, but they seemed to concentrate so well on their own building projects – spending hours with blocks, pots from the kitchen, moving dirt around outside with toy excavators, or playing with action figures or dolls – that it looked like they could do anything if they put their mind to it.
And then… was there a screeching halt between 2nd-4th grades?
Did it start gradually in Kindergarten or first grade? Was something just “off” from what was expected and did it seem like they just needed some time to mature a little? They were so creative and a great volunteer, maybe even a good helper when others needed help, they just had trouble staying in their chair, or following long directions, or being distracted.
Maybe you and your Kindergarten teacher both saw these signs but thought the next year would be better because your child just needed some more time to grow – and while other children with the same issues may have gone on and performed better in 1st grade – your son or daughter struggled with the same issues yet again.
They began to be so tired on school days – it was so hard to get them up and yet, on the weekend and holidays they were up and starting their day before your eyes are open. You noticed that they seemed to need time to decompress once school was over; either they needed naps, or they had emotional crying or yelling jags. Sometimes they’d just go outside and lay on the grass. When asked, they think P.E. or Art are the best parts of their day.
And then comes the day when they have stomach aches before school, maybe they are physically ill, or resort to crying every morning, and now the reports from school become downright grim. Either your son has become the class clown and disruptive or your daughter has become invisible. It gets worse as their academic achievements grow sparser and sparser and you ask yourself,
“Why is this happening when they were so smart before school?”
the answer is: THEY ARE STILL AS SMART AS THEY WERE BEFORE SCHOOL, BUT THEY ARE STILL MISSING THE SAME BASIC LEARNING FOUNDATIONS AND AS EACH YEAR ADVANCES THEY CANNOT CONTINUE THE SAME LEVEL OF ACHIEVEMENT.
Think about the energy it takes to be positive facing a day you know will be filled with failures. Think about what it would be like to go to work and be asked to do things all day long that you know you cannot perform – and maybe your co-workers are in the room together with you and you know you have to finish the project – and you cannot. How many times would your peers notice your short-falls before they begin to ostracize you? How fast would you change your job?
If you want your Happy Confident Child back – Call us to give them the tools, training, and support they need to demonstrate their intellect at school.